Never let anyone tell you what you should be doing.
Never tell yourself what you should be doing.
Don't tell other people what they should be doing.
What should be done about a relationship, a job, a living arrangement, a financial picture, self-love, free time, spirituality or anything else for that matter.
I was told once that if someone tells you that you should do something, you should run in the other direction as fast as possible. (I love the irony of that - but stay with me. haha)
How on earth can someone else know what is best for you?? How does it make a glimmer of sense for someone to look at your life from an outside perspective, and have the capacity to gain enough insight into your experience, to be able to offer any valid amount of advice?
Seek council from people you trust, yes. But learn to trust yourself, homie.
Use caution when your inner monologue runs things through the mind like, "I shouldn't do this or that." "I should own a house or have a kid by now." "I should stay at my shit job for security."
When you use should language toward yourself, you are sacrificing the desires of your heart for the cultural conditioning of what is "normal".
Screw normal, man. Normal is lame.
Do what makes you joyful. Do what makes your heart sing. Be on your own timeline.
Quit the job, leave the relationship, travel the world, fall in love, get out of debt, buy the house, have the baby, save for retirement, go back to school, learn to play the ukulele, paint faces at festivals, be friends with your ex.... OR DON'T!
Don't let anyone, including me, tell you what you should be doing.
The only thing you should be doing is living. Whatever that looks like for you.
Cheering for you.