Nothing really shapes a person more than utter and total humiliation.
When you sit in your throne of shame and isolation, it does something to you.
At least that was my experience.
Most of my pain and suffering surrounding the end of my marriage was in the humiliation I felt. The embarrassment of the whole thing.
I was absolutely mortified.
And looking back, every action, every word, every thought that I had reflected that emotion.
But now, now that I have picked myself up and dusted myself off and created a new life for myself that I love..
Now that I have found my voice and my strength and have taken my power back... Now that I am not ashamed of who I am or my story with all it's twists and turns...
Now, that I am not really afraid of my emotions anymore. I don't fear pain or heartbreak or anxiety or moodiness. (Mine or anyone else's for that matter.)
I am not afraid of failing or of being embarrassed publicly.
Because I have already done that.
And not only did I live through it, I am better because of it.
If you're in the middle of some shit my friend, find something steady and unchanging, and hold on.
The peace, freedom, courage, strength and empowerment that is the calm after the storm will blow your mind.