Hi there. I'm Collette.
I became the Defiant Dreamer when I got sick of everyone telling me what I should be doing. When everything that culture, media, family, religion, and mainstream “normal people” believed, just didn't feel right to me anymore. I was sick of feeling defeated, inadequate and not enough. I was sick of the rat race and the bullshit. I was sick of being treated like garbage and like I didn't have value.
So, I started questioning EVERYTHING. My beliefs, myself, my stories, my thought processes, my actions or my inability to act in some circumstances. I started questioning why I never stood up for myself or why I gave so many fucks on people’s opinions of me. I started questioning my faith and asking myself who God actually is to ME. Not who I am told to believe He is.
In all this questioning, I found that I was just an illusion of a person I had created based on people’s feedback of me. I was trying to shape myself into what I thought should be instead of just being myself. So I said, FUCK THIS. I hash-tagged every photo I posted with #givezerofucks and that is exactly what I did.
I left my marriage. I left my “dream job” one month before getting promoted. I left my favorite city of L.A. and moved into my brother’s guest room in the suburban mid-west. I started doing yoga and taking care of my body. I started speaking my truth, drawing my boundaries and not chasing anyone that didn’t want to be in my life. I just listened to my heart. I did what FELT right - not what I should have done.
So, now I want to use my experiences to help other people heal their hearts and create the life of their dreams. I want to create tools and space for people to dialogue with themselves about themselves so they can uncover what is holding them back from their fullest potential. Because our biggest obstacle in life is ourselves.